Cum, jiz, spoof, spunk, man juice, ejaculate, man milk, shoot white pearlies – they’re all images and words you might have in your head about being here at your first jack off party.
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Wow! There’s some thirty guys here today, all ages represented - and they’re all butt naked. After a cursory glance at their body shape you realise that you’ll fit in nicely here – and then your eyes look straight at the cocks. They’re everywhere – some erect and being slowly manipulated by a new friend, some in a semi state of arousal just waiting for that extra zing to full erection. Small ones, fat ones – and yes, there’s always one that draws gasps of delight and a sense of awe. He won’t be alone during today’s events – and chances are that as you mingle from group to group you’ll encounter him, hand-to-cock for yourself.
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Soon you are joined by another man and it’s only natural to have each of your hands on a different cock. In turn there are his two hands working on your pleasure, one tweaking your nipples and kissing you, the other firmly but gently caressing your member. There’s conversation and laughter. There’s yet another man who has found your naked body attractive and he has placed himself behind you, erect cock rubbing your spine and his arms wrapped around you. There’s plenty of lubrication being spread around. In some clubs this is cold pressed massage oil whilst some others will use Albolene or similar moisturisers. Remember to avoid friction – a cock that is rubbed a little raw is a real dampener to a happy party.
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With all this attention you’ll soon find that one of your group – perhaps you – will be moving towards
that inevitable moment of shooting your load. When this is sensed your compatriots will happily assist you to climax. If you do climax somewhat noisily then you can expect a rousing shout of approval from those men near you. And remember that no-one is keeping count on the number of times that you cum or don’t cum.
Alternatively if you want to save yourself, an indication of “no thanks” with your hand will be understood or alternatively “I need a break” is a good line to use when you to slip out of the group and refresh yourself with a drink. As most wank parties play for up to two hours you need to pace yourself.
Some j/o clubs will sell you a drink (alcoholic or otherwise), some will have asked you to bring your own to share. It’s a good time to chat with your like-minded neighbour, perhaps exchange a phone number for another chat or meeting, talk about other sexual opportunities your city might offer or generally shoot the breeze on any topic that interests you both. Don’t be surprised if there are revelations of marriage, kids, sexual frustrations, Internet hookups and how to keep your extra-marital sex activities secret. By going to the j/o group it’s a men’s club you’ve entered, and with that it gives you a safe environment in which to play, a range of like-minded consenting (probably married) adult men and the freedom of being nude.
Most clubs will offer some form of showering and this can hold additional fun when several men shower together, and for a voyeur, it’s a delightful scene to watch. A group I have been associated with used to meet in private homes and after showering many a party ended with a BBQ meal which gave additional conversation time and a sense of belonging to the participants.
Wank parties, j/o groups – whatever you call them, are not just for the sex. Many an attendee knows of the loneliness of being sexually and geographically isolated. Therefore these parties exist, and have done so in some cases for three decades, because there is a strong need for men to share masculine time together. To converse, touch, divulge, laugh and share. If you want to remain totally private about your life you can certainly do that, but it’s been my experience that the more you open up about your own inner fears and loneliness, the easier the healing will be. Because – you are not alone in your desires or fears.
And if you take away from the party a sense of no longer being odd, queer, misunderstood or battling desires on your own, you will have gained a precious moment in your life where you’ve made a step forward in accepting who you are and what you sexually like to do. Whether you return for a second visit or drift quietly back into your everyday life is a decision you’ll make based on your conversations and your inner contentment or otherwise about being sexual in this way.
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Shared mutual masturbation is not for everyone. “It’s not proper sex” has been one complaint I’ve heard many times. For me, that’s someone making a judgement about themselves. For many other married men who only seek nudity, a friendly masturbatory orgasm, male companionship and open-mindedness it is a wonderful new world. For them it’s a safe sex environment. There’s no oral genital sex, no fucking, no attitude - and that means he doesn’t have to worry about being labelled gay, bi or queer, worry about taking home to his wife any transmittable sexual diseases or indeed, have any performance insecurities. He’s accepted for exactly who he is - his body shape, his age, his skin colour, his inexperience, his chosen lifestyle.
It’s no wonder that so many married and partnered men continue to attend j/o parties as their only sexual outlet beyond their marriage. Sexual safety and masculine company is a great way to share what we all love doing best – shooting a hot load.
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Groups meet regularly in many American cities, Vancouver and in Melbourne (Australia). The oldest clubs are the:
New York Jacks (33 years – meet twice a week) http://www.nyjacks.com/
San Francisco Jacks (29 years – meet 2nd and 4th Monday each month) http://www.sfjacks.com/
Update: October 2021: The Melbourne Wankers (Australia) after 30 years and some 650 jack-off parties, have now ceased holding parties.
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